We want to believe we live in an advanced civilization—one that has risen above the base prejudice of our unenlightened ancestors. Human beings have a bent to marginalize other people. We want to be the best Sneetches on the beaches, after all.
There is one key component of every single emotionally destructive relationship. If this one thing is present in your relationship, you are being emotionally abused. Period.
I’ve been posting links to articles about the whole Saeed-Naghmeh thing over on my Facebook page. For the most part, the comments have been sympathetic toward Naghmeh, but there are some comments that I feel a strong urge to talk about over here on my blog. I’m not going to be Smucker’s Sweet, more Sriracha […]
“Knowingly or not, we give our boys license to act abusively, and we develop in our girls deference to that behavior.”
I’ve disappeared again! I know! Here’s why: This is my company’s busiest time of the year, so I’m working more hours on that. We are having our first ever open house at the end of November, so if you live near the Twin Cities area and want to stop in to say “hi” – I’d […]
Here are five things I build my identity around that I never thought I’d end. And then I did.
How about an update? Some of you have asked how the kids are doing in school – wh0’s still at home – what I’m doing now, etc.. Things have finally fallen into a routine that I’m content with. My oldest son has been happily married for over a year now. We get to see him […]
I’ve got another post coming tomorrow that continues with yesterday’s, BUT Leslie Vernick just published a helpful article about boundaries this week called, Are You Setting Boundaries or Just Being Manipulative? It’s perfect for what we’re talking about over here. Be sure to check it out. In the comments section, Leslie got the following question: […]
Setting boundaries feels mean (and people will tell us so!), and we never wanted to be put in that position. We were comfortable letting people tromp all over us because it make us feel good about ourselves. We are the nice person doing the serving and getting no thanks. We are the martyrs.
“Subverting the meaning of the real 10 commandments to foster worship of an institution that will pass away when Christ returns, is the height of purveying the false gospel that marriage is to be esteemed and honored above God himself.”
This is an important article. Read it HERE.