When You are Erased
We erase mistakes. We delete irrelevant material. We edit out unimportant points.
But have you ever been erased by someone?
Category Archives: Domestic Abuse
A Twist on the Good Samaritan
There was once a Christian woman who got married. Shortly after her wedding day, she was attacked by her husband. He took her dignity and reputation, shamed her, blamed her, treated her like his property, and left her half-dead, alone in her home.
Conquer Support Group is Taking Applicants This Week!
Heads up! If you are looking for more intense support, I highly recommend Leslie Vernick’s Conquer support group. For only $27 per month (which I think is a bargain when you consider how much private counseling costs – and this can be just as effective) you get access to a library of videos on all kinds of subjects pertaining to abuse survivors. You’ll also get to be part of an amazing community of women, like yourself, on a private Facebook page. I think this was my favorite part about Conquer. I didn’t feel alone. I had a place to share my raw feelings without being ignored and dismissed. People prayed for me, and I prayed for them.
Finally, you’ll be a part of two group phone calls per month where you can ask questions and hear Leslie’s answers. If you can swing $27 per month, it will be money well spent in your recovery and healing.
Conquer enrollment only takes place twice a year, so hop on board from now until April 23 at midnight.
This One’s About Anger
Anger provides the energy necessary to fight for life sometimes. It can be the fuel that inspires courage and initiative to right wrongs, stand up for the weak, and defend the helpless.
Three Things to Put in Writing (and Three Reasons Why)
If you are tangled up in a confusing relationship, one effective strategy to gain a solid footing (and eventually a voice) is to write things down. It doesn’t matter if you are a good writer or not. Your purpose isn’t to win a Pulitzer prize. Here are three important things you can record on paper (or on your computer) that will be tremendously helpful to you over time.
Rushing Reconciliation is Rarely Rewarding
Can you have a healthy relationship where there is lying, covering up, pretending, overlooking, and ignoring? Does that foster intimacy? Of course not. Healthy relationships are grown in the soil of vulnerability and safety. When two people are open and honest, they can get close and experience authentic acceptance and love. Anything less is dysfunctional in some way.
How Can You Tell if Someone is Sorry – For Real?
A repentant person will not make excuses, blame you or something else, rationalize their behavior, or justify what they did. If a person is doing any of those things, they are not repentant. Period.
Misogyny: An Epidemic From Hell
We want to believe we live in an advanced civilization—one that has risen above the base prejudice of our unenlightened ancestors. Human beings have a bent to marginalize other people. We want to be the best Sneetches on the beaches, after all.
The One Sure Sign You are in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
There is one key component of every single emotionally destructive relationship. If this one thing is present in your relationship, you are being emotionally abused. Period.
Three Nasty Things (some) Women are Saying About Naghmeh
I’ve been posting links to articles about the whole Saeed-Naghmeh thing over on my Facebook page. For the most part, the comments have been sympathetic toward Naghmeh, but there are some comments that I feel a strong urge to talk about over here on my blog. I’m not going to be Smucker’s Sweet, more Sriracha […]