Call Me Old Fashioned…
Guest Post by Ruthiey Paulson
…but I think wedding dresses should be modest.
I follow several photography blogs and I find it a little odd, not to mention distracting, when the bride is wearing a dress where there’s pretty much only one focus, and it’s up there. I would like to know how she talked herself into picking that dress, and why her mother and sisters and fiancee(!) approved. I can’t look at any of the pictures without feeling uncomfortable. I
wonder…
Isn’t the bride wearing white supposed to demonstrate purity?
And if you’re going to be “out there” at your wedding, what does that say about the rest of your life? When does purity begin? Is purity valued anymore? These will be your heirloom wedding pictures, displayed in your home, put in an album, and available for your children to enjoy one day.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m all for sexiness. I think it’s extremely important for women to embrace their sexuality. It’s a ridiculously amazing gift from God, but key words are right time and place. And those only coincide in one place – with your husband in private.
Getting married is very romantic, but the tendency to be up in the clouds about picking a dress can be dangerous. How a bride dresses does affect what people think when they see her. The reality is, immodesty will cause some guys to sin and possibly “legitimize” the dress enough that other women feel okay about wearing one themselves.
Here are some examples of dresses I love along with a link to the site where I found them. Modest dresses do not have to be ugly!
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I love the skirt on this one. It’s elegant but understated.
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A bride needs to decide where she wants the focus to be. The dress shows her heart. Does she want everyone looking at her radiant smile and beautiful eyes…or at her blushing chest?
Ruthiey is the daughter of Jeannette Paulson, one of our regular contributors on the VW blog, and she blogs over at Color My Life With Love.
If a guy sins, it is his responsibility, and God will hold him responsible for that sin.
Absolutely. He holds every single human being responsible for their own sin. Including the sins we do against others that cause them to sin. It’s a very sinful mess, isn’t it? Praise God for His Son, Jesus Christ, Who died on our behalf. Let us live lives of gratefulness for His gift, and humbly strive to please Him in all that WE do.
I agree with you. One time we went to a wedding and was shocked at how the wedding dress looked like a nightgown. I do not want my husband and sons to have to look at “family” dressed like that nor do I want my girls to think that is “pretty” ~ sad to say this wedding did not last long. When my dd married it was not hard to find a nice gown just took effort.
You are not old fashioned! In my church, the pastor’s wife actually sees the dress before the wedding to make sure it’s modest. I don’t want to look back at my wedding pictures and be embarrassed with how I was presenting myself.
I love this post!! I have three daughters that look forward to marrying one day and this has been a topic of discussion. Why, why, why would they wear something that did not represent what they have stood for up to this very special day? Thank you too for the pictures, we all thought those dresses were beautiful and were encouraged to see they ARE available.
I’ve known some women who get so caught up in what is in the wedding magazines or what the bridal shops are pushing (I almost wish I had taken pictures of some of the “interesting” ideas one lady tried to talk me into wearing) that it’s almost like they temporarily lose sight of modesty. I knew people in my church who chose somewhat immodest wedding dresses who would never have dreamed of dressing like that on any other day.