About this Blog

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This blog is for women, about women.

This blog is about the CREATOR of women.

This blog is about being strong. Courageous. Honest. Balanced.

Vulnerable yet safe.

This blog is about seeing clearly.

This blog is about loving.

And more than anything else, about being loved.

Get to know the Wemmicks

Somehow they seem to blow the foggy grayness of life away, leaving all the brilliant color of Truth behind. Once we see our Wemmickness better, we see our Creator better. Or maybe it’s the other way around. Either way, I like it.

I also write about Pendulums.

And driving on roads with ditches on both sides. Balance beams. Tightropes. We Wemmicks like to swing from one extreme to the next. We’re constantly correcting the steering wheel. Forever flinging ourselves off the beam. But the Creator is Steady Eddy. His Word, an Anchor. The same yesterday, today, and forever. Swinging too high? He’ll nudge you back to center. Stuck on the side of the road? He’s faithful to pull you out and get you on your way again.

Realize the Power of the Pits.

They make you stronger. God is crafting pillars to beautify His palace. (Ps. 144:12) Pillars are not wimpy, weak things. They are also not overbearing, self-seeking, foolish things. But they are crucial to the well-being of the palace. Without them, the palace falls. They are capable, firm, enduring, secure, substantial, solid, and robust. That kind of strength doesn’t develop in a vacuum. It is the result of a crucible or two. When you are in the middle of a really hot one, it helps to know you’re not alone. You’re never alone.

And what about Vulnerability? Truthfulness? Being Real?

Yes. Yes. And Yes. The fact is, we aren’t perfect, and we never will be no matter how hard we polish our cups. Our righteousness is found in Jesus Christ alone. His sacrifice is enough. This frees us up to take off our masks and live courageously. The fact is, we will never be able to help one another if we have to hide. Lately, I’ve been deprogramming from a lot of “Christian” lies. Let’s figure this out together.

Do You Think You Might Be in an Emotionally Destructive “Christian” Marriage?

This is a serious problem in the Church. There are many women married to “Christian” men who only see their wives as objects to be used, mocked, and criticized rather than valuable co-heirs of the grace of life. (It can be the other way around too, but this blog is written for women.) These women are encouraged by their church to submit, overlook, forgive, and shut up. If they try to get help, they are told they are angry (as abused people often are), whiny, and ruining their husband’s reputation. What they really are is confused, brainwashed, and gagged. Their children grow up believing that to be a “Christian” is to pretend, hide, and cover up. They end up despising Christianity and marriage, seeing these as hypocritical cesspools of evil. If you suspect you fall into this category, or you think you know someone who does, here are some places to start getting help in seeing your situation clearly:

Emotional Abuse

What is Forgiveness

How Reconciliation Works

Denial and How to Deal with It

Setting Boundaries in Relationships

Ten Signs You are a Victim or a Survivor

Books that will help you live courageously

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick

Foolproofing Your Life: How to Deal Effectively with the Impossible People in Your Life by Jan Silvious

Safe People by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

In Sheeps Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George Simon

Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of Our Age by George Simon

Changes that Heal by Dr. Henry Cloud

A Cry for Justice: How the Evil of Domestic Abuse Hides in Your Church by Jeff Crippen

Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church by Jeff Crippen

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond by Patricia Evans (secular resource)

No More Christian Nice Girl: When Just Being Nice Instead of Good Hurts You, Your Family and Your Friends by Paul Coughlin and Jennifer D. Degler PhD

Love is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships by Robert Hemfelt

The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner (secular resource)

Not Under Bondage: Biblical Divorce for Abuse, Adultery, and Desertion by Barbara Roberts

Divorce and Remarriage in the Church by David Instone-Brewer

Finally, Don’t Forget the Little Things

Like potty training, homeschooling, bed rest, gender disappointment, sleepovers, mama cloth, and much more. You will also find several of my healthy living articles on Keeper of the Home.

I hope you’ll join me on this journey toward seeing clearly—so we can live courageously.

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