A couple of days ago I shared an excerpt from one of Elisabeth Elliot’s books. This little gem encouraged us to be available to God to do whatever He called us to.
One of the ways that the Enemy can really mess with our female heads is to make us think God wants us to be available to every Wemmick that calls out our name. Women tend to feel guilty if they can’t answer every single call. (Not every woman is like this – there are some people who don’t hear calls at all, but since I can’t relate to that, I don’t care to speak to that.)
What We Want From Ourselves
I’ve had a huge battle with this in my own life. It’s hard for me to just say no to people. As I’ve grown older, I’ve gotten better at it out of necessity (there are only so many hours in a day), but I still FEEL guilty. I FEEL like I’ve failed someone. I FEEL like I might have hurt their feelings.
As I’ve reflected on this issue in my own life, I’ve also had to come to grips with an uncomfortable fact.
I am a messed up, self-centered, prideful Wemmick.
The very thing I don’t want to be. The very thing I’ve worked my butt off to avoid. I prefer to think of myself as, well… a legend. A rock star wife and mom. A successful homeschooler/business owner/writer.
(Yes. I’m choking.)
But I have to level with you, and I completely understand if you unsubscribe immediately. I would. (Jeepers, I’ve tried. But I’m stuck in this skin.)
So that’s the first point I want to establish here. When we like to think of ourselves in this idealized fashion – and we work hard to get the “outside of the cup” to look real purty-like so we can imagine that our idealized self is our true self (and hopefully everyone else will also buy our creative fabrication) – we do that out of a sense of pride. Or to use an uglier word: arrogance.
Wemmicks like us can’t say “no.” To do so is to fail. And failing is bad. And we have to be “good” so we can like ourselves, and everyone else can like us too.
But accepting ourselves and our limitations is critical. And saying “no” is essential to success.
What Others Want From Us
Everyone wants something. We’ve all got needs. Some people are healthy and have learned how to get those needs met in healthy ways. Some people are not-so-healthy and get their needs met parasitically. (Think of a tick on a horse. Have you ever seen one of those after it’s been allowed to suck for a while? Not pretty.)
Wemmicks are thrilled to be able to inform us of how we can best use our time. They’ve got 3,890 ministry opportunities, 20,435 problems to unload on you, and 19,354 desires they would appreciate your fulfilling. Now, please.
And then you multiply that by 200,897,574,388,294,710 Wemmicks – and you’ve got yourself a serious job. You might be tempted to think your name is God. But it’s not. And that’s a problem right there. What to do?
What God Wants From Us
It’s simple, really. We absolutely MUST live, not for ourselves, not for others, but for God. He has the perfect balance for us. His yoke is built with just the right pressure and weight for us. Sometimes it seems heavier than we can bear – and those are opportunities to snuggle up real close to Him and NEED Him to help us. But when we simply take on what HE gives to us – and no more – we find that sweet spot of productivity and peace.
Let’s talk about this more next time.
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