In the past two posts I’ve given you a few helpful steps in anyone’s quest to raise dysfunctional Wemmicks. It’s fairly easy. You’ve got several things working in your favor: your own sin, their sin, and the sin of everyone else around you. If you missed all the details, not to worry. I’ll make sure they stay right here on the blog for future reference. You can choose to raise a future abuser OR a future victim of abuse.
But what if you don’t want to raise a dysfunctional Wemmick? That’s what today’s post is all about.
The Bad News
Let’s get this part out of the way. The bad news is that every Wemmick, just by nature of their being a Wemmick, is dysfunctional. The Bible calls it sin. We’re born immersed in it both inside ourselves and in the environment and relationships outside of ourselves.
Well now, that’s the million dollar question, isn’t it? Normal will be defined differently depending on who you are talking to, and since that’s a lot of definitions, let’s stick with what I think God might call “normal” just to keep it simple. And that’s the Gospel. The Gospel in a nutshell is that Wemmicks are sinful and separated from God. Justice dictates that they all be punished. Jesus took that punishment we deserve when He died on the cross.
Then He won the victory over sin and death by rising from the dead. You can read all about this in the Gospels. John is a great one for newbies because it is easy to understand. I’m going to assume most of the readers here are familiar with the Gospel and have been saved by it.
Basically, Wemmicks are dysfunctional, and their only hope for ever being restored back to the “normal” state God originally intended is if they surrender their lives to their Creator and allow Him to save and sanctify them. This STARTS the PROCESS back to “normal.” But folks, the full scope of “normal” will never be a reality for us until we get our fully restored bodies.
In the meantime, we move in that direction. Learning how to more completely rest in His perfect Fatherhood. Learning how to live authentic lives—walking in Truth. Learning how to love Him and love others. So “normal” for us earthlings is the process of moving in a Godward direction, fulfilling His purpose for our brief life here and bringing Him glory in the mess.
And a mess it is. At times.
What I really and truly want to communicate here is this: earthly “normal” is not being a perfect Christian. Dotting all your i’s and crossing all your t’s. Nobody can ever be that. You know what we CAN do though?
The Good News
We can be honest. We can be humble. We can be real. We can quit pretending and hiding and acting. (THAT is not “normal!”) When we live authentic lives ourselves, we model authenticity to our children, and they have a better chance of being authentic too.
Normal is walking in Truth. That’s it. It’s learning Truth. Living Truth. Teaching Truth. Truth is found in only one place: God’s Word. That’s why it is important to be immersed in that. But we can’t just read it and apply our own presuppositions to it. We have to read it and let it interpret itself. The WHOLE counsel of God is Truth. Not bits and pieces pulled out here and there and made into specific Wemmick rules.
It isn’t easy. And even if we do strive to live authentically, there will be kickback. We will fall. Our kids may still grow up and choose a different path. I think there are two things we can control here though:
1. Our direction.
We can choose what path we take. We can choose a path of humility and authenticity.
2. Who we look to for help when it comes to raising our children.
We can look to ourselves or our church or our spouse or the latest parenting craze. Or we can look to God. And looking to God means being on our knees daily asking HIM to raise up our children to be humble, authentic individuals moving in a God-ward direction. (I have a little series I did a few years ago on this subject HERE.)
This is how I picture it in my mind. I am in the Throne Room on my face before the King. Beside me are my children. I am beseeching the Sovereign God who holds all things together to take my children and keep them. To make them His. To do a good work in their lives. To fulfill all His good pleasure with them. Bottom line is that I am helpless and hopeless without Him. I need Him. He alone can do this in our lives.
I know He loves us to come to Him like that. I’m trusting Him even with the worst parts of my life. The most confusing and dead-end parts. Nothing formed against me shall stand, because I am His and He is mine.
And that’s all the “normal” I could ever hope for my children.
If then you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is our life, is revealed, then you also will be revealed with Him in glory. Colossians 3:1-4
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