“I’ve tried having mutual conversations with my spouse, but we never get anywhere. He’s always right. My opinions matter little to him. He tends to dismiss and minimize any of my concerns. Every attempt on my part to engage in a meeting of the minds is met with either hostility or laughter. I often leave conversations feeling guilty. Like I did something wrong to even bring up an issue. I often feel confused and stuck. What do I do?”
Let’s talk about that.
To Love, Honor, and Vacuum
October 1, 2014
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John Piper says, “But as I come to the end of my life…I would like, in addition to serving meals, take people into the kitchen and show them how I cook, how I get food, how I get meaning from biblical texts.” Come find out how he does it in these incredibly helpful (free) labs!
September 29, 2014
The Beginning of Wisdom
October 2, 2014
He is tied to us. By placing His image in us, God assumes an extra measure of ownership and responsibility for our lives. We are His brand, His trademark. You may remember that the second commandment prohibits making graven images of God. Part of the reason behind this is that God has already given a graven image of Himself—in us.
But more than this, by placing His image on us, God has bound Himself to us as a parent. We are His children. And like any good parent, He must protect and nurture His children. The beauty and genius of this is that our good and His glory are inseparable. While our good is found by displaying His glory, His glory is found by bringing about our good.
Sometimes we think it isn’t very “nice” to think of someone as a fool, but God thinks differently. Proverbs lays out a blueprint for discovering fools and dealing with them. If we’re wise, we’ll pay attention.
September 29, 2014
The incredible irony of the gospel for abuse victims is that Jesus suffered the most extreme form of physical abuse so that the broken could be healed (“by His scourging we are healed” [Isaiah 53:5]). In fact, this irony is so great that the dominant symbol of Christianity is an instrument of sadistic abuse—a cross. When one understands the grotesque nature of crucifixion, by which the founder of Christianity and many early Christian leaders were tortured to death, it’s amazing that Christians image their faith with a cross (1 Corinthians 2:2). It would be comparable to Jews making the symbol of Judaism a miniature crematorium they wear around their necks and place on their synagogues. The cross is the most powerful symbol imaginable of God’s ability to heal and redeem abuse.
After enduring incredible suffering, Paul declared that through all of the abuse, Christ was sweeter and stronger in his life (2 Corinthians 4:8–18; 12:10). God always desires to heal our brokenness and to use it as the very nutrient to draw us into a deeper experience of joyful intimacy with him and to give us an opportunity for more fruitful ministry to others who are also broken (Romans 8:17; 2 Corinthians 1:4–6).