2 minute Patrick Doyle Clip on Emotional Abuse

This is a great little clip to send to someone who believes your very convincing emotionally abusive partner. When the helper tells you to “love them more” as the solution, it only emboldens the abusive partner. Here’s why:

If you want to share this short clip with a “people helper” via email, but you don’t want to link them directly to this blog, here’s a link that leads straight to the clip: http://www.youtube.com/v/cMnaexahcLo?version=3&start=338&end=446&autoplay=0&hl=en_US&rel=0

You can watch the entire video HERE.

Three Things to Put in Writing (and Three Reasons Why)


If you are tangled up in a confusing relationship, one effective strategy to gain a solid footing (and eventually a voice) is to write things down. It doesn’t matter if you are a good writer or not. Your purpose isn’t to win a Pulitzer prize. Here are three important things you can record on paper (or on your computer) that will be tremendously helpful to you over time.

Rushing Reconciliation is Rarely Rewarding


Can you have a healthy relationship where there is lying, covering up, pretending, overlooking, and ignoring? Does that foster intimacy? Of course not. Healthy relationships are grown in the soil of vulnerability and safety. When two people are open and honest, they can get close and experience authentic acceptance and love. Anything less is dysfunctional in some way.

Don’t Let the Current Catch You!


On July 9, 1960, a man took his two kids for a boat ride on the Niagra River. Motor trouble caused the boat to get caught up in the fast current and tip over. The father was swept over the falls to his death. One of the children, a 7-year-old boy, fell over the Canadian […]