July 28, 2014
What if you are a wife, and your husband is not asking you to sin; he just doesn’t agree with you on things. How do you come to a final decision on something when you’ve reached an impasse?
The “disease to please” runs rampant in society and in many churches, resulting in women who act more like girls than powerful women of loving faith. Consequently, far too many women are not being transformed into the true image of Christ, and not living like the heroic women of faith in the Bible. Instead, they have become hamster-wheel women of immense frustration, burnout, and depression with lives that lack purpose and integrity.
The reason submission is so unpalatable to people, especially women, is because of all the “Christian” lies that swirl around it. Submission itself is a beautiful thing that enhances human relationships. But here are some examples of how people take it, twist it into a lie, and fling it around like a weapon that can (and does) encourage and perpetuate abuse of women and children.
A reader commented recently: “What do you think the Bible means when it tells Christian women to “submit” to their husbands? Do you think it was just for that culture?” Let’s figure that out.
July 18, 2014
One of the most destructive books for Christian women on the market (in my personal opinion) is Created to Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl. And there was a time when I recommended that book to women. I cringe to admit that. I would read her caustic message delivered in a sarcastic, critical, angry tone, and I would cheer. Now my flesh crawls.
1) I would like to be a Christian sex therapist. We have seen so many marriages that are loveless, and we have seen that almost no pastors have any helpful advice to give except that the husband’s and wife’s bodies belong to each other so don’t deprive one another. And by the way, submit woman. […]
I am about to do a great purge. It has nothing to do with weight loss and everything to do with being genuine and reducing stress. I’ve changed. This change involves becoming real, like the Velveteen Rabbit. My fur is getting rubbed off.