This blog is for women, about women.
This blog is about the CREATOR of women.
This blog is about being Strong. Courageous. Honest. Balanced.
Vulnerable yet Safe.
This blog is about Seeing Clearly.
This blog is about Loving.
And more than anything else, about being Loved.
Get to know the Wemmicks
I have a habit of writing about them a lot. Somehow they seem to blow the foggy greyness of life away, leaving all the brilliant color of Truth behind. Once we see our Wemmickness better, we see our Creator better. Or maybe it’s the other way around. Either way, I like it.
I also write about Pendulums quite a bit.
And driving on roads with ditches on both sides. Balance beams. Tight ropes. Tooth floss. That sort of thing. (OK, not the tooth floss.) We Wemmicks like to swing from one extreme to the next. We’re constantly having to correct the steering wheel. We’re always passionately flinging ourselves off the beam. The Creator is Steady Eddy. His Word, an Anchor. The same yesterday, today, and forever. Swinging too high? He’ll nudge you back to center. Stuck on the side of the road? He’s faithful to pull you out and get you on your way again.
Realize the Power of the Pits.
They make you stronger. God is crafting Pillars to beautify His palace. (Ps. 144:12) Pillars are not small, wimpy, weak things. They are also not overbearing, self-seeking, foolish things. But they are crucial to the well being of the palace. Without them, the palace falls. They are capable, firm, enduring, secure, substantial, solid, and robust. That kind of strength doesn’t develop in a vacuum. It is the result of a crucible or two. When you are in the middle of a really hot one, it helps to know you’re not alone. You’re never alone.
And what about Vulnerability? Truthfulness? And Being Real?
Yes. Yes. And Yes. The fact is, we aren’t perfect, and we never will be no matter how hard we polish our cups. Our righteousness is found in Jesus Christ alone. His sacrifice is enough. This frees us up to take off our masks and live courageously. If we find flaws in one another or in our thinking, we don’t haul off and attack. We use respectful, adult conversation to work it out. The fact is, we will never be able to help one another if we have to hide. Lately I’ve been deprogramming from a lot of “Christian” lies. Let’s figure this stuff out together.
Women in Abusive “Christian” Marriages
I’ve got a passion for this. In the past few years it has come to my attention that this is a serious problem in the Church of Jesus Christ, and it has nothing to do with Jesus Christ. There are many women married to selfish “Christian” men who only see their wives as objects to be used, mocked, and criticized rather than valuable co-heirs of the grace of life. These women are encouraged by their church to submit, overlook, forgive, and keep quiet. If they try to get help, they are told they are angry (as abused people often are) and dishonoring. What they really are is confused, brainwashed, and gagged. Their children grow up believing that to be a “Christian” is to pretend, hide, and cover up. They end up despising Christianity and marriage, seeing these as hypocritical cesspools of evil. While some might say this is glorifying to God, I say it’s not. If you suspect you fall into this category, or you think you know someone who does, here are some places to start getting help in seeing your situation clearly:
Books that will help you live courageously (and I am not an Amazon affiliate – I’ve just read these books and found them extremely helpful.)
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick
Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
Changes that Heal by Dr. Henry Cloud
The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond by Patricia Evans (secular resource)
No More Christian Nice Girl: When Just Being Nice Instead of Good Hurts You, Your Family and Your Friends by Paul Coughlin and Jennifer D. Degler PhD
The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner (secular resource)
Finally, Don’t Forget the Little Things
Like potty training, homeschooling, bed rest, gender disappointment, sleepovers, mama cloth, and much more. If you want to catch up on the very best articles from the past, but you don’t want to drown in an ocean of links, just download the BEST of Visionary Womanhood Volumes One and Two FREE by signing up to get my posts delivered directly to your email inbox. (See below.)
You can find several of my articles having to do with healthy living on Keeper of the Home.
I hope you’ll join me on this journey toward seeing clearly—so we can live courageously.