I cannot heal so-and-so.
I cannot rescue fill-in-the-blank.
I cannot change such-and-such.
I cannot protect you-know-who.
I cannot fix you-know-what.

But I can spend time with Jesus.
And I can go for a bike ride.
And I can eat something that’s healthy.
And I can take my dog for a walk.
And I can do a load of laundry.
And I can do what is right in front of me today.
And I can write.
And I can pray.

And I can love the people that God has put in my life.

 

If I had to choose the form of betrayal that emerged most frequently from my research and that was the most dangerous in terms of corroding the trust connection, I would say disengagement. When the people we love or with whom we have a deep connection stop caring, stop paying attention, stop investing, and stop fighting for the relationship, trust begins to slip away and hurt starts seeping in. Disengagement triggers shame and our greatest fears— the fears of being abandoned, unworthy, and unlovable. What can make this covert betrayal so much more dangerous than something like a lie or an affair is that we can’t point to the source of our pain— there’s no event, no obvious evidence of brokenness. It can feel crazy-making. We may tell a disengaged partner, “You don’t seem to care anymore,” but without “evidence” of this, the response is “I’m home from work every night by six P.M. I tuck in the kids. I’m taking the boys to Little League. What do you want from me?” Or at work, we think, Why am I not getting feedback? Tell me you love it! Tell me it sucks! Just tell me something so I know you remember that I work here!

Brene’ Brown, Daring Greatly

Brene' Brown
Daring Greatly (Penguin Publishing Group, 2012), pgs. 51-52

What I’m Thinking, Doing, and Reading

what I'm thinking

Getting Organized I’m going through Chalene Johnson’s FREE 30 day challenge. It’s utterly practical and has the potential to be a life-changer. I think I already do a lot of the things she talks about, but it’s helping me put those things into categories and do them in a way that makes sense and is […]

Comedy in the Gospel?

the gospel as comedy

It’s been a month of marinating in Buechner’s Telling the Truth. Oh my. It’s delish. So I wrote a little bit about how Beuchner presents the gospel as tragedy HERE. But he makes an argument for the gospel as comedy as well. Comedy is that genre in literature that takes a situation of (often) exaggerated […]

Concerns with the Homeschooling Movement?: RC Sproul Jr. Responds

R.C. Sproul Jr.: Jesus Changes Everything
June 23, 2015

I’m writing from this year’s Christian Home Educators of Colorado conference. It’s always encouraging to be here, to visit with friends and to be encouraged. I always find homeschool conferences encouraging.  That said, where there are people, there are sins to be concerned about, and that includes we who homeschool. Here are five things I believe are a current danger.

Five points that nail it. Read them HERE.