Conservative Christians and Mental Illness

Practical Theology for Women
December 14, 2014

I recently read a handout from a conservative Christian college’s psychology class likening sending someone with eating disorders to a eating disorder clinic to sending someone with a pornography problem to a pornography clinic. In so many words, it set up vomiting as a sin to be rebuked from Scripture like pornography. It was stunning to read, and my heart immediately ached for those struggling through very real mental health issues who were shamed away from secular medical intervention at that college. Though much good progress has been made on mental health issues and the believer by way of organizations like CCEF, there is obviously still a long way to go.

This is such a good article. Read the rest HERE.

I am Angry

What do you think about anger? Some anger is destructive. It rages and revenges. But sometimes anger is just part of normal life experience. If you’ve ever grieved a loss, you know what I’m talking about. Here is one woman’s confession. There’s a lot packed in this short excerpt, and I’m hopeful that rather than […]

Meek Isn’t Weak

A Cry For Justice
November 23, 2014

In the Bible, the word we translate as meekness — praǘtēs — does not connote weakness. Nor does it convey a submissiveness that is easily imposed on by others. Meekness is a Christian virtue that is a special kind of strength which does not pay back evil for evil.

We have no word in English that is an exact parallel to the Greek word praǘtēs. This has caused another stumbling block for Christian victims of abuse.

Praǘtēs is usually translated as ‘meekness’. But here’s the rub: in the English language, the word ‘meek’ connotes quiet, gentle, easily imposed on, submissive. Sir Thomas Brown explained: “Meekness takes injuries like pills, not chewing, but swallowing them down.”  But praǘtēs means something rather different.

If you’ve ever been confused about this, read Barbara Robert’s insights HERE.

The Voice of the Helper

Practical Theology for Women
November 16, 2014

One thing I am processing is why so many women over the years at Mars Hill felt silenced. I think some of it is pathological – serious mental struggles due to childhood trauma by some influential leaders that resulted in over the top reactions to women who spoke up. But I also think some of it was theological, which is why I’ve hounded again and again the issue of Genesis 3:16. One elder referred to explicit theology – that which was taught – and implicit theology – that which was believed. There was a discrepancy between the two at times. Leadership at Mars Hill occasionally spoke explicitly about women with the assumption that our first root issue was that we would want to take over control from the men in our lives. But the implicit belief outside of what was explicitly taught was there at a fundamental, pervasive level. When that is your foundational assumption, then there is nothing that a woman can say short of complete agreement and affirmation of you in every way that will not be eventually labeled gossip, manipulation, or outright usurping of authority.

Read the rest of this insightful article by Wendy Alsup HERE.

Can Abusers be Christians?

Cry for Justice
November 17, 2014

Need to clear up the confusion over whether or not there will be justice when a so-called “Christian” is chronically abusive and unrepentant? Do they get to abuse with impunity because they are a “Christian?” After all, they are covered by the blood of Christ, right? Christians sin, and there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, so doesn’t that mean abusers who are “saved” get a free ticket to abuse and then enjoy the benefits of being a child of God?

If you’ve ever been emotionally, physically, sexually, verbally, financially, or spiritually abused on a regular basis by a co-worker, boss, spouse, parent, relative, “friend,” or pastor, OR if you know someone who has, this article is for you. Read it HERE.

Three Disciplines to Develop Wise Speech

Knowable Word
November 14, 2014

(Red brackets are my addition to the text to help the reader see how this applies to all of us, not just “leaders.” You could put the word “sister’s” or “friend’s” or whatever other word you want in there. Make it applicable to YOU!)

You’ve tasted and seen the effects of a wise leader’s [mother’s] words, and you want to be that kind of leader [mother]. You want to speak words that deliver, delight, gladden, and heal. You’d like to be able to defuse, persuade, inspire, and influence. You can picture leading such Bible studies [or children around the dinner table], but you don’t know how to move in that direction. You see the potential, but you don’t know how to realize it.

You’re not alone, and you don’t have to feel stuck. Proverbs describes not only the product but also which best practices will help you get there. The following 3 tips don’t include everything that could be said about how to become a wise leader [mother]. But if you give yourself to these 3 disciplines, you’ll quickly find, by God’s grace, you have something to offer. “The lips of the righteous feed many” (Prov 10:21).

This article was rich and convicting. Read the rest HERE.

Eight Things Your Tween/Teen Son Needs From You

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I’ve found it incredibly enjoyable to raise sons. I think sons need a few things to thrive in their relationship with you. If they get these things, the warmth of your relationship will foster a natural bent toward their being honoring and respectful toward you – with a desire to please and help you. Because that’s the bottom line. RELATIONSHIP. Here are the ones I can think of right now in no particular order: